How to Deal with Divorce Regret

Divorce is a major life decision and may be followed by feelings of doubt and regret. Although many will feel relief and a sense of readiness for the future, others may wonder if they made the right choice, even when the decision was carefully considered. In this article we look at why and when divorce regret happens and some of the things you can do to help manage these feelings.

Divorce regret can happen at different times for different people. For some it may happen soon after separating when going from a shared life to being independent can lead to feelings of loss and uncertainty. For others, it might happen later, perhaps when there are financial issues or challenges with co-parenting.

Seeing your ex move on can also make you question whether you made the right choice and often it can be simply adjusting to a new routine. Even if you were completely sure at the time, moments of doubt are common. Rather than viewing these feelings as a sign you made the wrong decision, it’s important to understand them and work through them.

One of signs of divorce regret is constantly replaying the past and thinking about what could have been, perhaps only focusing on the positive aspects of the marriage. There can also be feeling of self-blame, questioning whether you made the right decision. Try and acknowledge these feelings and use them as an opportunity to reflect and take steps forward.

You can give yourself permission to feel regret without letting it define you. Divorce is a big decision and there may well be feelings of sadness, nostalgia, or uncertainty. This is completely normal and part of the process.

During and after your divorce it is important to spend time on your emotional and physical well-being. Having a healthy routine can create a sense of stability. Try and take time to do things you enjoy, whether this is exercising, reading, your hobbies, or spending time with friends and family. Be kind to yourself and build a new routine and focus around looking after yourself.

Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, mindfulness techniques can help you stay present and reduce feelings of regret. This can include meditation and deep breathing exercises, things which help you focus on the present moment.

If divorce regret is significantly impacting you, you may consider speaking to a counsellor who is experienced in this area. Professional support can help you work through unresolved emotions, develop new coping strategies, and gain a clearer understanding of your feelings.

Regret can be a natural part of the post-divorce journey, but it does not have to define you or your future. By acknowledging your emotions, focusing on self-care, practicing mindfulness, and seeking support when needed, you can begin to rebuild your life with confidence.

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This article is intended for the use of our clients and other interested parties. The information contained in it reflects the author’s view and is believed to be correct at the date of publication. However, it is necessarily of a brief and general nature and should not be relied upon as a substitute for specific professional legal advice.